Leo Diaz

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Our Dominant Thoughts Pen Our Narrative

I know a few people who fiend for adrenaline.

Their idea of a good time is seeing how close to death they can come without actually dying. Being that I don’t have the guts to take them up on their offer of joining them I sort of live vicariously through their adventure stories.

One such friend spends two weekends out of the month jumping out of small planes with first-timers strapped to his back. He told me once how the dopamine rush right before lunging out of the plane is like nothing you’ve ever experienced before. He’s hooked to the high (get it? high? skydiving? Oh, forget it).

What’s interesting is that even if you knew nothing about the guy you could probably tell that he has a wild-side. And it has nothing to do with his appearance, in fact, he’s a pretty conventional guy. Blue jeans, loose tees, no facial hair, sneakers, members-only jacket on cold days (no, I’m not kidding).

He just gives off an air of danger. As if being in close proximity to him will lead to some life-threatening encounter.

I suppose it makes sense though. After all, deep, deep, down on the inside we have a soul that is shaped by whatever dominates our thinking.

This is how we get that inner narrative that everybody talks about.

That time your parents forgot to pick you up at daycare. Or when your frisbee got stuck in the neighbors tree and you busted your head open after falling out of it. Or when you caught your prom date making out with your best friend. Or when your dad told you that you’ll never amount to anything in life.

Each of these episodes, if given enough acreage in our minds, can potentially pen the wordless story you tell the world. The story most people, if they pay close enough attention, can read off of you without even knowing you.

This is why my buddy, Wildman, gives off a vibe of danger and risk. That’s his narrative. It’s was resounds deep down in his soul.

Now, I’m pretty sure Wildman hasn’t always been Wildman — and therein lies the silver lining.

Our story is malleable. It’s just a matter of changing what dominates our thinking.

If you’re constantly ruminating about the times you failed then your story will reflect failure and insecurity. Dwelling on the rejection you felt during your college years will only serve to create a narrative of abandonment, inadequacy, and self-doubt.

But if we can find something invigorating, something we can be passionate about and let that dominate our thinking then we may be able to reshape our narrative and tell a whole new story. One we don’t have to be ashamed of telling.

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